Recently I heard of a case of possible divorce. It was from a distant relative. This lady wanted a divorce because her husband was having an affair outside. My heart immediately went out to the two little girls. I still remembered in 2010, I heard about their plans to have a third child but then later no news. At that time I was a little disturbed because it was so easy for some people especially non-believers to conceive. When they said they wanted to have another baby, the next moment they got pregnant. Heng told me that there was no need to be envious about them because we are the ones truly blessed by God. I could not see what he meant then but now, three years later, I saw it clearly.
Indeed many people seemed to be ahead in terms of their career, family planning etc. But really, it does not matter how advanced their careers are or how many kids they have if the outcome of their marriage is like this. God showed me that in making all these steps forward, when their marriage broke down, it was like taking a huge step backward, totally nullifying the progress made. Of course no one could judge their decision because we really would not be able to know what they went through.
The devil is really a rascal! Over the past eleven years, I have heard of ten cases of divorce, some with kids, some no kids. Imagine that it was only about a decade and these people are already giving up on their marriages. Marriage is for the long haul...what about the next 20, 30, 40 or 50 years ahead? It caused me to wonder how many marriages can truly survive the long haul. I really think it would be impossible unless Christ is at the centre of our marriages. He is the One who truly holds the marriage and the family together. Without Christ, it is impossible to love our spouse or our children with the agape, unconditional love of God.
What is worse is the view towards divorce nowadays. The trend is that divorce has become commonplace and when people find that they cannot get along, they choose this way out. Frankly it is the easy way out. Staying put and roughing out the challenges in the marriage is tougher but more admirable. Yes, God can still have a wonderful plan for divorcees but this is not His best will. The emotional wounds of the children after divorce could take a long while to heal and it was always a struggle for the single parent. But of course if the party was a victim and divorce is the only way out of an abusive marriage, then it would be better for the safety and well-being of that party.
God told me that sometimes a family may look very blessed and happy on the outside but what goes on behind the closed doors, no one knows. In fact, there are bound to be challenges and struggles in every family but with Christ, we are not alone. We have the wisdom of God to help us in our marriage and parenting. Therein lies the blessedness of a family who puts Christ in the centre. We have a strong foundation for our marriage which is built on Christ the solid rock. And this foundation will see us through the storms in life, causing us to overcome in life. Christ will be our unchanging anchor when the world around us is changing. Such is the security of a family who trusts in Christ. They will then be thriving in the long haul and all glory and praise will go to God!
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